This song 没那麼简单 can be found in 黄小琥 latest album 简单/不简单. Launched on 18 December 2009.
The lyrics speaks to a more mature female audience. It is not a weepy love lost song. It is not a happy found love song. It acknowledges the woman’s desire to find love yet understand the difficulty of maintaining the relationship.
I’ll attempt a translation.
没那麼简单 就能找到 聊得来的伴
It is not that simple, finding someone you can talk to
Especially after witnessing so much betrayal
Always unconcerted, toughening up is inevitable
Who killed my romanticism
没那麼简单 就能去爱 别的全不看
It is not that simple, to love and to embrace everything
There are pros and cons to being realistic
It is not that I love loneliness, but I get used to it
There’s no one to worry about, no one to answer to
别人说的话 随便听一听 自己作决定
I pack my days with activities when I feel like it
I give myself a holiday when I am tired
Others can say what they like but I make my own decisions
No more emotional rollercoasting
A glass of red wine and a movie
A phone that offed and a comfortable sofa
That’s my weekend night
曾经最掏心 所以最开心 曾经
Love is not that easy, everybody has their temperaments
I’m passed the age of dreaming, peace might be better than fireworks
Happiness is not that easy, which is why it is attractive
In the age of innocence
I once loved with all my heart, felt the greatest happiness, ONCE
想念最伤心 但却最动心 的记忆
Memories are both sad and touching
The lyrics resonates with me because I have similar thoughts as well. It is difficult to find and maintain a meaningful relationship. Friends who were hitched earlier are now experiencing marriage problems. Of course happiness is not impossible and I, like most people, long for companionship.
On the other hand, I can’t totally dismiss the costs and risks either. Risk of betrayal and costs of accommodation. Peace from an emotional rollercoaster and freedom from family obligations are appealing and benefits that I enjoy as a single right now.
I can go home and plonked into my sofa and watched TV after work. A mother can’t do that. I can buy a plane ticket and go travelling next week without having to seek “permission” from the other half.