A Woman Song: 没那麼简单 by 黄小琥 It’s Not That Easy

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A woman song, 没那麼简单 can be loosely translated as It’s Not That Easy. It acknowledges a woman’s desire to find love yet understand the difficulty of maintaining the relationship.

简单不简单

It is not a weepy-love-lost song. It is not a happy-found-love song.

The lyrics resonate with me. It is difficult to find and maintain a meaningful relationship. Friends who were hitched earlier are now experiencing marriage problems. Of course, happiness is not impossible and I, like most people, long for companionship.

On the other hand, I can’t totally dismiss the costs and risks either. Risk of betrayal and costs of accommodation. Peace from an emotional rollercoaster and freedom from family obligations are appealing and benefits that I enjoy as a single right now.

I can go home and plonked on my sofa and watched TV after work. A mother can’t do that. I can buy a plane ticket and go travelling next week without having to seek “permission” from the other half.


Lyrics of 没那麼简单

没那麼简单 就能找到 聊得来的伴
尤其是在 看过了那麼多的背叛
总是不安 只好强悍
谁谋杀了我的浪漫
没那麼简单 就能去爱 别的全不看
变得实际 也许好也许坏各一半
不爱孤单 一久也习惯
不用担心谁 也不用被谁管

感觉快乐就忙东忙西
感觉累了就放空自己
别人说的话 随便听一听 自己作决定
不想拥有太多情绪
一杯红酒配電影
在周末晚上 关上了
手机 舒服窝在沙发裡

相爱没有那麼容易 每个人有他的脾气
过了爱作梦的年纪 轰轰烈烈不如平静
幸福没有那麼容易 才会特别让人着迷
什麼都不懂的年纪
曾经最掏心 所以最开心 曾经

想念最伤心 但却最动心 的记忆

English Translation

It is not that simple, finding someone you can talk to
Especially after witnessing so much betrayal
Always unconcerted, toughening up is inevitable
Who killed my romanticism

It is not that simple, to love and to embrace everything
There are pros and cons to being realistic
It is not that I love loneliness, but I get used to it
There's no one to worry about, no one to answer to

I pack my days with activities when I feel like it
I give myself a holiday when I am tired
Others can say what they like but I make my own decisions
No more emotional rollercoasting
A glass of red wine and a movie
A phone that is switched off and a comfortable sofa
That's my weekend night

Love is not that easy, everybody has their temperaments
I'm passed the age of dreaming, peace might be better than fireworks
Happiness is not that easy, which is why it is attractive
In the age of innocence
I once loved with all my heart, felt the greatest happiness, ONCE

Memories are both sad and touching

This song 没那麼简单 can be found in 黄小琥 latest album 简单/不简单. Launched on 18 December 2009.